“By my being willing not to know thoroughly who I am, the rigid structures surrounding my identity might begin to give way, leaving behind a sense of openness and possibility… In this direction lay freedom, and, paradoxically, self-knowledge.
I was beginning to see the danger in adhering to a single narrative, hewing to a story. The peril wasn’t only in getting it wrong. It was in a kind of calcification, a narrowing, a perversion of reality that hardened and stilled the spirit.”
– Dani Shapiro
from the book “Inheritance” (which I highly recommend)